I notice something about myself. Actually, something about me glares at me with mean eyebrows and I finally seem to be getting the point. Here's the point: I need to RELAX.
I'm impatient to a fault. A big, glaring ugly fault. I've lectured my kids about having patience. I dislike impatience in other people. I even sing the "Have Patience" song in silly voices on occasion. And yet I'm in a hurry. A lot. WHY? In reality, the difference it "costs" in time between being a relaxed mom who can roll with the punches and the crazy mom who's making her daughter(s) cry from the stress of being hurry hurry hurried at is... oh... about 30 seconds. Two minutes tops. Who is this crazy person residing in my brain?
There's nothing like having kids to bring out the glaring inadequacies in us. They copy everything we do. When Gracie is huffing at her sister(s) to hurry, it smacks me in the face where she learned that. It makes me ashamed and sad. And also a little hopeful that she pays attention when good mommy's around, which I sincerely hope is a majority of the time. Copy HER.
I will not be that mom anymore. I'm going to start by letting Coco take as long as she wants to put on her socks.
Serenity now.
11 comments:
Oh boy! Preaching to the choir, here! I don't know why I'm in such a hurry either - it isn't fun! But the dawdling drives me bonkers!! Ahhh, I need medication.
I love that last line! Luckily, my daughter is too young to copy me just yet, but I do not look forward to the days when she mimics my bad habits, of which there are MANY!
It's not hurrying that gets me, it's just getting inpatient with J when he starts being fussy or cries. For some reason there are days I just can't handle it!
I LOVE that song! I have a mini-mimic too. He told "E-WHY" to stop crying today in the car and the tone of his voice sounded almost like that of his 31 year old mother who was in need of a little sugar! SCARY!
I do it too. Now, I just buy flip flops.
I'm flying down and we're getting pedicures.
And a glass of wine!
Dana, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE DO!!!!!
Hi Kristi! I just wanted to say hi & I love your blog...Elizabeth
Oh girl. Did I write that??? Because I think I wrote that.. or at least I meant to write that.
Golly, it is so hard - especially the socks-thing. I find I am always rushed and always fighting the urge to press hard on my kids. In light of eternity - what does most of all that rushing matter? Will we get sued or lightning strike us if we are 2 minutes late - even to the doctor? Nope. So why all the pressure?
I'm with you - trying to let go.
Also, the "Have Patience" song? Is it the one about the snail named Herbert? If it is, we song that song too!
Realizing the problem is the first step. I hope it's not too long a journey.. and for heaven sakes doesn't take too awfly long!
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